Part One · The Wide Net
Who's already invested in your eros?
Nothing here has to be formal, current, or even real. Cast wide — you can always narrow later.
🧭Mentors & guides
Living people who've shaped your relationship to your own sexuality.
💛Partners & ex-partners
Current or past partners who are — or could be — invested in your erotic life.
Ex-partners, once things have settled, are often some of the strongest members. They already know you.
🩺Therapists, coaches & allied professionals
Therapists, coaches, doctors, bodyworkers, or other professionals who support your growth, health, or erotic life.
A sex therapist, pelvic floor PT, somatic coach, physician, or counselor — anyone in a professional helping role.
🤝Friends & community
The friends or chosen family who already show up for you — whether or not sex has ever come up between you.
Who's already an informal cheerleader for your life, sexuality included?
🕊️Ancestors & those who've passed
Who — that has passed — remains, in some way, on your side?
Family, a public figure, an ancestor you never met.
✨Aspirational & imagined figures
Is there a version of someone — a parent, a friend, even a version of yourself — you wish had shown up differently, that you can recruit as an imagined presence now?
Examples: "the sexually liberated version of my parents," or "the confident version of myself who spoke up."
📖Cultural touchstones
Poets, artists, musicians, or characters whose words or spirit you find yourself channeling.
🌊The more-than-human
Plants, animals, land, water, or elements that feel invested in your life-force.
The ocean, a tree, a particular place.
